Research indicates that children who have been physically abused by parents report that the physical scars heal but emotional scars remain!
1. A hateful or mean tone will be remembered by children more than the words that were spoken..
2. Don’t compare your child with their other family members or other children..
3. Don’t promise things to children you can’t deliver, disappointment is painful..
4. Don’t use words that are demeaning e.g. stupid etc..
5. Children feel hurt, disappointment and sadness. Validate their feelings; their feelings are real..
6. Don’t label your child with negative words e.g. “You never get your maths right “. These labels can prevent your child from reaching their true potential..
7. Don’t scream at your child, it indirectly gives children permission to copy your behaviour and lowers self worth..
8. Listen to your child without interrupting. Let them know what they have to say is important; it assists self worth..
9. Humiliating children creates fear..
10. Harsh verbal discipline is not counteracted by the good times you have with your child. It leads to anxiety depression, and poor self worth in children..
REMEMBER NEGATIVE AND HURTFUL WORDS STAY IN OUR CHILDRENS MINDS UNTIL ADULTHOOD!!.
BA(Macq), MA(Syd), Dip Clinical Psychology(Syd)